There is no quick question or answer on this topic. I have been asked many of which is starts off the same. Why? As an expert in the field of child behavior, bullying has been around since I was a child and adults are not much different and are in the workplace. There are many questions and many answers.
Having extensive knowledge of cyber bullying, there are many issues, statistics and indeed resolutions. The percent of teens who have reported being bullied while at school is 37% of teens who bully others. Overall in this nation, 1 out of 4 children get bullied while 95% never report it and are simply bystanders due to peer pressure or fear they will be bullied themselves. Bullying threaten students’ physical and emotional security at school and can negatively impact their ability to learn.
The best way to address bullying like anything else is to stop it before it starts. There are a number of things school staff can do to make schools safer and prevent bullying. However, there are only about 15% of schools effectively promoting a policy and implementing strategies to curb bullying.
There needs to be an aggressive school preventative policy instituted and intervention efforts around students behavior, including substance use and violence. You may be able to build upon them or integrate bullying prevention strategies.
Conduct assessments in your school to determine how often bullying occurs, where it happens, how students and adults intervene, and whether your prevention efforts and methods are working. I believe that surveillance monitoring is an important solution which documents the bullying behavior and actions.
Launching an awareness campaign including social media make the objectives known to the school, parents and community members. Establish a school safety committee to plan, implement, and evaluate your school’s bullying prevention program.
I would suggest hiring a security expert like CRI to install and promote this endeavor. Create a mission statement, code of conduct, rules and a bullying system. These establish a climate in which bullying is not acceptable. disseminate and communicate widely. Establish a school culture of acceptance, tolerance and respect.
Use staff meetings, assemblies, class and parent meetings, newsletters to families, the school website to establish a positive climate at school. Reinforce social interactions and inclusiveness. Enforce and train teachers and staff on the school’s rules and policies. Give them the skills to intervene consistently and appropriately.
Current anti-bullying programs are limited and mostly ineffective. There is no correlation to other programs like drug abuse and unprotected sex. These programs were established decades ago in school programs whilst anti-bullying was overlooked. Due to the severity of bullying, policies need to be implemented on all school programs in middle school and high school. They also need to be aggressive. In most states, cyber-bullying is considered a crime up to a class C felony.
- Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
- Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
- A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying
- 10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above
- According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying
Bully-related suicide can be connected to any type of bullying, including physical bullying, emotional bullying, cyberbullying, and sexting, or circulating suggestive or nude photos or messages about a person. Some schools or regions have more serious problems with bullying and suicide related to bullying. This may be due to an excessive problem with bullying at the school. It could also be related to the tendency of students who are exposed to suicide to consider suicide themselves.
Some of the warning signs of suicide can include:
- Showing signs of depression, like ongoing sadness, withdrawal from others, losing interest in favorite activities, or trouble sleeping or eating
- Talking about or showing an interest in death or dying
- Engaging in dangerous or harmful activities, including reckless behavior, substance abuse, or self injury
- Giving away favorite possessions and saying goodbye to people
- Saying or expressing that they can’t handle things anymore
- Making comments that things would be better without them
If a person is displaying these symptoms, talk to them about your concerns and get them help right away, such as from a counselor, doctor, or at the emergency room. In some cases, it may not be obvious that a teen is thinking about suicide, such as when the suicide seems to be triggered by a particularly bad episode of bullying. In several cases where bullying victims killed themselves, bullies had told the teen that he or she should kill him or herself or that the world would be better without them. Others who hear these types of statements should be quick to stop them and explain to the victim that the bully is wrong.
Other ways to help people who may be considering suicide include:
- Take all talk or threats of suicide seriously. Don’t tell the person they are wrong or that they have a lot to live for. Instead, get them immediate medical help.
- Keep weapons and medications away from anyone who is at risk for suicide. Get these items out of the house or at least securely locked up.
- Parents should encourage their teens to talk about bullying that takes place. It may be embarrassing for kids to admit they are the victims of bullying, and most kids don’t want to admit they have been involved in bullying. Tell victims that it’s not their fault that they are being bullied and show them love and support. Get them professional help if the bullying is serious.
- It is a good idea for parents to insist on being included in their children’s friends on social networking sites so they can see if someone has posted mean messages about them online. Text messages may be more difficult to know about, so parents should try to keep open communications with their children about bullying.
- Parents who see a serious bullying problem should talk to school authorities about it, and perhaps arrange a meeting with the bully’s parents. More states are implementing laws against bullying, and recent lawsuits against schools and criminal charges against bullies show that there are legal avenues to take to deal with bullies. If school authorities don’t help with an ongoing bullying problem, local police or attorneys may be able to.
Friends and relatives of suicide victims also need to find someone to talk to as they grieve, especially if they are suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts themselves.
If interested in using my information and/or desire more details and have a speaker come to as school , please contact me through this blog or call directly to 845-362-3433. What makes me part of being an expert? I was bullied most of my child life and survived. There are thousands of children, ages 6-18 they did not survive bullying and committed suicide. You read about them almost everyday. This needs to stop! http://www.thelost.net